If there is one way in which a woman can feel that she is not the weaker sex is by remaining single all her life. This thought came to my mind after being questioned several times in the past few days on my "single" status and after heavy thinking, I realized how life was suddenly so beautiful for me. Beautiful not in terms of clouds of love hanging on my head, or flowers falling as I walk. But beautiful because I realized how by being single, I could rule as a woman. How I could again throw my weight around and not bother about the issues of emotions and sentiments which seldom works in today’s world. How I was so free that I didn’t have to be answerable to anyone? How i could concentrate on many more things in life which I had left pending for a long long time now. And how I could look all around and pamper myself with “eye candies” everywhere. I mean do we really need a man to create an identity for ourselves? I guess its just a misconception and i have risen much much above it now.
But the question is not why this happens? The question is “how” this happens. The “so called” inhabitants of the planet mars called “MEN” probably forget their golden concepts of reasoning and practicality when it comes to wooing a girl. In just one instance, they can hand over stuff ranging from their wallets to their hearts. I mean this is one phase where we girls can actually make a guy run on his toes and he can still manage to be as sweet as honey, which probably one would never find once he becomes your boyfriend. The usual issue would always centre around “why aren’t you like before?” “How can you change in just one year?” And the usual answers normally are “Things Change”
But do things change so much? This “short lived” phase my dear friends, is what marks as a moment of victory for women. It satisfies the feminist instinct in one self to say that “women rules”. The problem with us is, that we end up falling prey to this “wooing” too easily, and after some time, end up loosing our importance. The solution is playing “hard to get”. If we play hard to get, there are two advantages in that. One, the guy will actually realize how lucky it is for him to be with the girl he loved and he would consider it a sort of an achievement (as normally guys do). To quote an anecdote, a friend of mine while talking about his girl friend said, they are like competitive exams, you fill up 10 of them but only the one where it is tough to crack, you work hard for it. Secondly, to be a little more selfish, it gives a great relief to one’s own feminist instinct to see men drool over us, even if it is for sweet nothings.
Which husband or boyfriend gets flowers or chocolates everyday? Which husband or boyfriend keeps complimenting you for every thing you say or everything you wear or sometimes for nothing at all? I guess this is one phase where we all have to reach at some point in our lives, then why not enjoy a phase where we are considered important for what we are and who we are. A phase where, women can actually drive men crazy. And people say being being single is a bane? All you girls out there, I say enjoy till it lasts…after all this is our moment of victory!!!!
